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The amorous sounds of music

Zeineen wanted to take a survey to find out what songs women were listening to while they made love. She sent out an email to all the divas she knew. Unfortunately, due to time constraints and possibly modesty, the research produced limited responses. Thanks for the three email responses and two verbal responses (you know who you are...).

Imagine this scene without music playing in the background: Your lover picks you up and lays you gently on the bed. He kisses you softly on the lips and moves down your neck. Now imagine this scene with Barry White singing in the background - the mood and energy change instantly. Music - the melody, words, rhythm and beat –creates a certain mood – romantic, up beat. Music can also help to accentuate your emotional, physical and spiritual responses - some songs bring up a memory of a time in your life – good or bad; bring you to tears, make you feel sad, or get you in the mood.

When I look back over my past relationships they all share one thing in common - music was never played - until I met my husband (who is twelve years older than I am). This begs the question: is playing music while making love an age thing? When you’re younger – in your late teens, early twenties the last thing you’re thinking about is finding the right song for a sexual backdrop - you’re only thinking about the main event. Music is often played to create a romantic mood – which is hard to achieve when you’re in the back seat of his car. As you get older you move from the backseat to the bed and foreplay which can include dinner, candlelight, and music becomes a part of your repertoire.

I remember my fist night with my husband - he played Teddy Pendergrass. For him, this was just natural. For me, it was an aphrodisiac. The words weren’t what created the mood but rather the music – it made me feel sexy and connected to him in such a way that I have never been connected to anyone else before. Playing music raised the bar of love making.

Even though music can add or set the mood for a particular moment, remember that one song is not like “one size fits all.” For example, if you wanted to create a romantic mood during dinner you might play jazz tunes or classical music. But if you wanted to work out to music you wouldn’t play jazz tunes or classic music – you would probably fall asleep.

So what kind of music or artist can get you in the mood for hot passionate sex? The one artist that keeps coming up is Barry White. Mr. White is sex - plain and simple. Even if you were to play it on the way home from work, by the time you arrived home you wouldn’t be thinking about cooking dinner but rather getting down to business and if your partner is home, all the better.

If you’ve never made love to music but are willing to try or you have and are looking to expand your horizons, I’ve listed a few of my favourite songs/artists and have also included favourites from the ladies who responded to my email.

As you can see this list can be endless and individual to your own tastes. Each generation will have their own favourites. Listen to your CD’s again and as you do, think about the feeling each song invokes. If it makes you feel sexy, sensual, hot and bothered, play it the next time you and your lover are heating things up.